My Agenda

Over the next few weeks my agenda,will be to read,learn and observe about family court and all the procedures involved in getting through all bullsh*t and  bureaucracy.

I found this site and it is amazing,and the resources it has for divorced fathers is incredible,and will help any father,it doesn’t matter where you live in the world. Read the articles and watch the videos and follow the their instructions and you will succeed

http://www.fathers-resources.com

The steps I have taken to date,and steps to be taken.

1. I have downloaded a copy of the child support guidelines for Ontario,and the workbook,You can do this also for your province or territory or state.
2. I have also downloaded all information and guidelines to court procedures.
3. I have downloaded all necessary forms to file a motion to change a child support agreement.
4. I will go to  local library and get the family law act, divorce act and statues,and read and study laws that affect my case.
5. On July 3/08 I will go to the courthouse and get familiar with the surroundings by finding out where the clerks office is and the chambers for family court are located and the hours.
6. On July 4-5 I will go to family court,when it is in session and sit and observe and take notes of the cases and how the Judges respond to these individual cases.(I plan to do this for three weeks in concession to learn as much I can about court procedures)
7. I will talk to legal aid and get further advice on to proceed with my motion.
8. I will go over all forms that need to filed,and fill them out and get legal aid adviser to check them.
9. I will go to the clerks office,and make sure I am following the proper court procedures etc.

Am I excited,your damn right I am.All I ever wanted was to be the father I used to be to my children,and no matter what is said.The family law act and laws passed by our provincial government have taken my rights as father away,and thus created what they call deadbeat dads.

I believe it is the responsibility of all fathers to pay child support,and  to also know their rights,when it comes to child support, and access. But when you have laws that take fathers rights away,and cause most fathers to live in poverty, not being able to afford to see their own children or provide for them.

This is the exact position I find myself in today,because of my current child support agreement, I live below the poverty line,and barely get by each month,and only get too see my children two-three times a year.

My question is why can’t these law makers,just cut the bullsh*t and bureaucracy,and make these laws fair for both parties,so both parties have equal access to their children and both parties can provide for the children on an equal basis,thereby creating an environment that is healthy and loving for the children.

In the end it’s the children and the fathers that are hurt by these laws.

Thanks again for listening

Sincerely Brian

My Journey starts today

Hi to all the fathers/mothers who suffer the bureaucracy of the family court system

My name is Brian,today I’m starting my journey to regain my rights as a father of three beautiful children.

Yes I am terrified and fearful of the outcome of this process. As fathers and mothers we all know too well our family courts are full of bureaucratic bullsh*t that is hurting our children,and is totally unfair to fathers everywhere,not just Canada.

This is why I have decided to set up this blog,so other fathers can learn from the process I am going to go through over the next few months or longer; if necessary to achieve my goal of regaining my rights to be a father again.

In retrospect; I regrett the decisions I have made in the past,when my wife and I initially separated.I didn’t want our marriage to end,I was still devoted to this woman and very much in love still after 17 yrs of marriage,and being together for almost 25 yrs.

All the decisions; I made at this time were made by a father who was mentally incapable due too the devastation of our break up.

Every single decision was made to make my ex- wife happy,and not too hurt my children.

This is a list of the bad decisions,that took my rights away as a father.

1. I gave my ex wife full custody of the children
2. I agreed and did not fight the support agreement
3. I took on all the debts from our marriage of over 17 yrs.

These decisions were made solely by me,and I take full responsibility.However at the time I did not realize the ramifications these decisions would have on me,as a father and how they would affect my rights as a father.

Today I realize should have fought and gotten joint custody of our children, and I will always regrett the decision to give full custody to my ex wife. Because soon as I did that, I gave the courts the power to make all decisions regarding support,visitation etc in the favour of my ex-wife,because she had full custody.

This is the way of our family court system works, and because of bureaucracy fathers don’t stand a chance inless they prepare themselves for that day in court. Thats why I am starting my journey today too learn all I can about family court,and the bureaucracy involved so I can regain my rights as a father.

I have downloaded a ton fo reading material and as I study this material.I will post information I think will help to overcome these hurdles many divorced dads like myself have to suffer,just to be a dad again. I will also put up some links to sites that have great content regarding divorced dads rights etc.

Thanks listening today,and I welcome your comments and support.

Sincerely Brian Roberts