Hi to all the fathers/mothers who suffer the bureaucracy of the family court system
My name is Brian,today I’m starting my journey to regain my rights as a father of three beautiful children.
Yes I am terrified and fearful of the outcome of this process. As fathers and mothers we all know too well our family courts are full of bureaucratic bullsh*t that is hurting our children,and is totally unfair to fathers everywhere,not just Canada.
This is why I have decided to set up this blog,so other fathers can learn from the process I am going to go through over the next few months or longer; if necessary to achieve my goal of regaining my rights to be a father again.
In retrospect; I regrett the decisions I have made in the past,when my wife and I initially separated.I didn’t want our marriage to end,I was still devoted to this woman and very much in love still after 17 yrs of marriage,and being together for almost 25 yrs.
All the decisions; I made at this time were made by a father who was mentally incapable due too the devastation of our break up.
Every single decision was made to make my ex- wife happy,and not too hurt my children.
This is a list of the bad decisions,that took my rights away as a father.
- I gave my ex wife full custody of the children
- I agreed and did not fight the support agreement
- I took on all the debts from our marriage of over 17 yrs.
These decisions were made solely by me,and I take full responsibility.However at the time I did not realize the ramifications these decisions would have on me,as a father and how they would affect my rights as a father.
Today I realize should have fought and gotten joint custody of our children, and I will always regrett the decision to give full custody to my ex wife. Because soon as I did that, I gave the courts the power to make all decisions regarding support,visitation etc in the favour of my ex-wife,because she had full custody.
This is the way of our family court system works, and because of bureaucracy fathers don’t stand a chance inless they prepare themselves for that day in court. Thats why I am starting my journey today too learn all I can about family court,and the bureaucracy involved so I can regain my rights as a father.
I have downloaded a ton fo reading material and as I study this material.I will post information I think will help to overcome these hurdles many divorced dads like myself have to suffer,just to be a dad again. I will also put up some links to sites that have great content regarding divorced dads rights etc.
Thanks listening today,and I welcome your comments and support.
Sincerely Brian Roberts
