Well it’s a rainy day,and I was woke up earlier that expected by loud music coming from the music store downstairs. I’ve been working 11 hr shifts this week and don’t get home till 3 am in the morning.
SEPARATION AGREEMENTS.
A word of caution for fathers when you write your own separation agreement. If you are doing this on amicable basis between you and your spouse with out going through the court system or using legal advice. Be very careful on how your separation agreement is worded.
Word to the wise (GET LEGAL ADVICE FREE OR PAID)
Because if your spouse decides to file with the court,and it will happen. How you word your agreement could come back to haunt you in the end.
- When your writing your agreement make sure you have a copy of the child support guidelines and make sure that you understand them.
- So you are paying proper amount of child support or spousal support,and most important is make sure you write in your agreement.That both parties agree that if there is a change in your financial status,due to being laid-off etc or a job change that your child support payments will be changed to reflect this.
- Also state exactly what you expect when it comes to having access to your children. What I mean by this is state the days and or week ends,holidays etc etc that you want access to your children.
- Most important is to state in writing that you(the father) will not be denied access at anytime under this agreement,or court action will be taken.
Word of caution fathers if your spouse files for divorce. You should look at your separation agreement and see if it needs to be revised and if so make the changes in the agreement with your spouse.
Before divorce papers are filed with the court,because your separation agreement will still be in force after your divorce is final.
If it needs revising and you can’t come to amicable agreement with your spouse,you can contest the divorce on these grounds and get your separation agreement changed.
Fathers listen up;whatever you do please do not write a separation out of guilt. This happens to a lot of fathers where they feel guilty,and blame themselves for the marriage breaking down etc etc. I telling you don’t do it,because you will live to regret it in the end.
The single most important factor when writing a separation agreement is protecting your rights as a father and your children’s right in having equal and shared access and control when it comes to your children. Under any separation agreement the children should have the right to equal access to both parents,as this important in raising them to be productive members of society.
Bottom line is our children need their fathers,as well as their mothers. This can be achieved by writing up a separation agreement that is amicable for both parties with out going through our court system that is full of bureaucracy,and discriminates against our rights as fathers,and our children’s rights.
These are links you click and download these files and print them off etc.
The last link is a Petition that needs to be filled out and signed by all fathers fighting for their rights. Get as many signatures as possible and take it to your local MP,or email it back to me and I will add it to mine and take it to my MP.
Thanks for listening today……………………Brian
P.S Thursdays’ Ramblings; I will post links to forms needed for court. thesE will be word documents you can download and fill out and print.
