Tuesday Morning Coffee & Ramblings/The FRO/Deadbeat Dads/Legal Aid

Hey Fathers

Fair warning guys,this is a long post(I need to vent) ; )

Are you on the FRO’S most wanted list,for not paying your child support. I was researching all the new amendments,that give the FRO more power when it comes to collecting,and enforcing child support orders/payments etc.

I don’t know, is it me or has common sense(Brain Matter) evaporated amongst the elite?,who decide on these amendments.

Thus,leaving empty space between their ears.

Ok I agree that parents should pay child support,under the child support guidelines etc. However; common sense tells me ,there has to be a fair and equitable solution,that gives both parents equal rights,to sustain a standard of living, that is acceptable under the Human Rights Act,and doesn’t discriminate against father’s ,or children’s rights.

The Family Law Act and The Divorce Act should reflect this,with new amendments.

Bottom line: The Fro and the Courts have been given the power to discriminate at will, against fathers,and children’s rights.

Doe’s it make sense to take a fathers license away,for not paying child support. All this accomplishes is hardship for fathers,who need transportation for employment purposes,and to be able to travel to have access to their children.

Here’s the big one, You can be jailed upto 180 days,for not paying your child support,and even longer if it’s not paid.

Answer this: How is a father supposed to earn a living and pay child support,If he is in jail. This amendment goes beyond discrimination against our rights,and should be abolished.

What does this amendment accomplish.

1. The father ends up with a criminal record, making it hard to find future employment.
2. Loss of current employment due to being  incarcerated.
3. Defamation of character.
4. Loss of visitation and access to children.
5. Put in an environment,where he is subject to elements, that could be detrimental to his health and mental stability causing future harm to his health and well-being.

Where’s the common sense? Please tell me.

Forget about the deadbeat dads etc.

If you look at current laws and amendments concerning,divorce/separation/child support/spousal support etc etc etc. These laws and amendments are supposed to protect the rights of the children, when in reality they have taken away our children’s rights to equal and shared parenting.

These laws discriminate against fathers, and their rights to be a parent. In reality, these laws forced law abiding fathers, who work hard and contributed to society,into being deadbeat dads fighting for their rights to sustain a living and have access to their children.

I feel, that these laws and the amendments to the Divorce Act/Family Act/Human Rights Act should be amended or abolished completely.

I honestly believe that, mediation is the answer,and there should be a (Mediation Board) set-up that has power over the courts and the Fro. This will insure a fair and equitable outcome to divorce/separation/child support/spousal support/child custody/property etc.

Couple’s: who want to divorce or separation,will be required by law to go before the mediation board,and present their case and all the facts pertaining to their case. Then the mediation board will mediate, between the parties, until a fair and equitable agreement has been reached.

What I mean by a fair and equitable agreement is that both parties, retain their rights as parents and they have equal rights and share control,when it comes to the children,and having access and paying support or spousal support.,that is fair,and will enable a standard of living,that’s sustainable for both parties,thus creating an environment that is loving,and nurture’s the growth of the children.

Maybe one day we will see these changes.I sincerely hope the powers to be,wake up and see that the Courts and the Fro,and all Government Agencies involved have too much power,and can’t even work together to find a solution to these issues.

I know I’m dreaming,However,with that said it scares me to know.That even though; the facts prove that my circumstances have changed,and I need a variance to change my current court order.That in the end,the court has the final say,and it’s at their own discretion,whether this variance is approved or not.

I’m filing my motion pursuant to section 17 (1)-(4) of the divorce act. In this motion I will also be asking for a suspension of arrears.

Order for variation, rescission or suspension

17. (1) A court of competent jurisdiction may make an order varying, rescinding or suspending, prospectively or retroactively,

(a) a support order or any provision thereof on application by either or both former spouses; or

(b) a custody order or any provision thereof on application by either or both former spouses or by any other person.

Application by other person

(2) A person, other than a former spouse, may not make an application under paragraph (1)(b) without leave of the court.

Terms and conditions

(3) The court may include in a variation order any provision that under this Act could have been included in the order in respect of which the variation order is sought.

Factors for child support order

(4) Before the court makes a variation order in respect of a child support order, the court shall satisfy itself that a change of circumstances as provided for in the applicable guidelines has occurred since the making of the child support order or the last variation order made in respect of that order.

It’s clearly defined,in the Divorce Act  and the Family Act, that if a change of circumstances has occurred,since the original order was made. That I the payer most certainly, should be eligible to get my court order varied,according to the child support guidelines.

Further More; I went to Legal Aid today,and spoke to a very nice lady.She informed that duty counsel is in family court on Wednesday’s from 1pm- 4 pm on a first come first serve basis.I’m confused,the clerk’s office told me duty counsel is in family court on Fridays????.

Anyway I’m going to family court on Wednesday,and I will speak with duty counsel,and get the advice I need and show him/her the forms I’ve filled out so far.

Well that’s about it for today,I blew off some steam etc,venting my frustration with this system of bureaucracy that is so unjust,and discriminates against our basic human rights,to be loving parents.

I know some people are going to say,we have mediation in the court system for divorce and separation etc.

What I’m suggesting is Mediation Board,that has power over the Courts and the FRO, where they can abolish current laws and amendments,and put in place laws that are fair and equitable to both parties,insuring both have equal rights as parents,when it comes to the care and control of their children,without discrimination of our basic human rights.

Ok father’s that my vent for today………Thanks for listening today……………Brian

P.S: If your new check out the links in the sidebar there is a lot of useful information,that will help you get started and prepare you for court,and all the bullshit that goes with it.